If it is easier for you, I can skype with you and use teamviewer to share your screen and help get you set up. It is actually a lot easier for me to do it that way.
Sorry you are having a hard time getting going... It's a difficult time for a new user to start with VC (especially when running XBMC on a separate machine from VC) because we are still transitioning from Eden to Frodo and a lot of things are not so user friendly yet, in terms of setup. Once you are set up though it works great, (as long as you have the right microphone setup).